Soft Skills Aren't Soft

Just ask Peggy Klaus

self-awareness
trustworthiness
conscientiousness
adaptability
critical thinking
attitude
initiative
empathy
confidence
integrity
self-control
organizational awareness
likability
influence
risk taking
problem solving (that's definitely not a soft-skill)
leadership
time management

Now, which of these do you learn in school? And which ones can you learn playing on a sports team?

Thinking about an MBA? Consider this : a survey by the GMAC found that MBAs were strong in analytical aptitude, quantitative expertise, info gathering, but lacking in other vital areas - strategic thinking, comm skills, leadership, adaptability.

What soft-skills do you need to work around politics - org awareness, spreading your influence, having a mentor, managing up, deflecting gossip.

Other skills you need to succeed - being able to ask for help and ideas, listening to your gut, self-belief, being able to change game-plan and priorities, and getting back on your horse after being knocked off.

Know your bosses communication style - how often does he need updates, emails, face-to-face chats, etc.

Think you're ready for leadership? Think again - know your strengths and w's, take the initiative to address your shortcomings, influence and motive people to think and act the way you want, let others express their ideas and trust them to do the job, express your needs and goals clearly, swallow humble pie occasionally, treat everyone with r irrespective of rank. Do you enjoy working with people, helping them grow and be successful? handle uncertainty well? make decisions without all the facts? need everyone to like you? want immediate and constant reinforcement? feel nervous about having legal and financial responsibilities for others? balk at the idea of evaluating or firing someone? have the time for this?

Career tips.